Executive Development

Traditional Executive Development Programs


Traditional executive development programs are valuable foundations for both individuals and groups.  They provide knowledge about our management styles, preferences, decision-making skills, tactics for various business scenarios and leadership. 

 

However, after the assessments, theories, role-play and skills training, why does the relationship anomaly still make our relationships difficult?  Why do the following questions continue to come up shortly after management training programs attended over the years?

 

·      “Why do we continue to be in conflict with specific people, when our intention is to be productive and communicate with all effectively? 

·      Why do we still have such strong people preferences? Preferences that may not help us be the best for our families or businesses?  Preferences that make those not selected feel excluded?

·      Why do we continue to be fixated on and react to certain behaviors?”

·      Why are we still agitated or traumatized by what our spouse, children or co-workers say to or about us in times of discord? 

·      Why does a spouse, child or co-workers behavior still make us go ballistic at times?”

 

The reality is that traditional executive development programs, although they can contribute to an accurate description of our personalities, management and leadership styles, keep us unconscious of the demands, power and control held by our hardwiring.  Control so great that it will do damage to the lives of those we care about and to ourselves, because it gives us no other options when under stress.

 

Control that was created by us to protect ourselves when young, now results in keeping us from knowing our original pain.  The original pain of what it was like as a child to be made to repress our personal-feelings in favor of our caretaker’s feelings. We were ignored, abused, shamed or frightened at times, so that we would comply with our caretaker’s sense of “normal.”  Our original pain is protected by our hypersensitivity to specific behaviors in others.  It places our focus on others behavior to as a way to distract us from the original cause of our pain.

 

On the other hand, this way of being conditioned is a normal part of growing up.  The reference to “damage” points to conditioning that leaves physical and emotional scares.  These scars have life-long effect on our decision-making, relationships and vocations.  It could even be argued that, for some of us, these scares have contributed to our success in life.  However, we only have to put a magnifying glass on our current personal and professional relationships to reveal signs of early childhood conditioning.  One easy starting point to understand these is to look at our strong preferences for friends, food, cars, sports, jobs, politics and reading material.


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