Intentional Language

Intentional Language addresses behavior, but it also asks questions that speak directly to the other person’s Core Intentions.  Intentional language keeps a person in the conversation, it pulls them in rather than pushing them away. The choice of words is crucial. The result is an immediate & dramatic change in the way other’s listen and behave. 

Two types of Intentions: Conditional & Unconditional

Good intentions

Good intentions are CONDITIONAL.  They are open to the interpretation, conditioning, experience, opinions, beliefs, culture or the politics of those involved.  There are always exceptions or differences of opinion regarding good intentions, i.e., “Should we feed the hungry or make available means to that end?”

Core Intentions

We all have an intrinsic need to feel seen, understood, accepted, chosen and valued by others. These are the five Core Intentions and are always UNCONDITIONAL. 

They remain the same for everyone, everywhere, at any time - with no exceptions!  The hermit is in relationship with the towns people weather he communicates or not. He is seen, understood, accepted, chosen and valued in some way by each citizen.

We all hope to feel these Core Intentions when in conversations with business colleagues and in personal relationships.  It is our primary motivation for communicating.

When people are not being seen, understood, accepted, chosen or valued in relationships, Core Intentional Language is absent and relationships decline.


People and organizations are their core intentions, regardless of their reactive verbal & non-verbal behavior.  

seen,understood, accepted, chosen and valued.

These core intentions are the  reasons we work, play, love, have children and start companies.

Core Intentions respond to Intentional languagethat brings forth into awareness the felt sense of being seen, understood, accepted, chosen and valued.


Intentional language is responsive, creates results and pulls people into conversations.

No one is holding back a better model for relationship.  When people or organizations are not being seen, understood, accepted, chosen and valued, intentional language is absent.


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