Primary Relationship - Self

By reflecting on my projections on others when disturbed and by asking what's missing inside myself, I have developed a primary relationship with a Core, a sense of Home or Self.


This primary relationship is experienced in those projections on others and through my conscious reflection of the Self personified inside me.  Through this process I am offered options, choices and alternatives to negotiate my days and nights. 


It is through grace that I continue to take the next step, to face directly my deepest pain, fear and grief.  It is for the stability, sureness, and connectedness received that I trace and re-trace my tangled web of mental-emotional lines, threads and linkages.  They as a whole make sense unconsciously; yet consciously show only my self-centeredness.


Moment by moment I step into this relationship, present myself and then make choices.  I then can act on my choice with 100% responsibility. 


The ability to choose is life’s gift, Holy Jelly I call it.  The open-ended nature of the process is such that my choice and action may either heal or be lethal to both those I love and to myself. 


My goal is to keep the body free of tension, the mind free of stagnant beliefs, and the heart free to feel original feelings.  Creating the time and space to be free is difficult.  Life is not suffering; it's just that we will choose to suffer it rather than enjoy it. Learn to go for the ride freely, no matter what happens.


The physical brain is real.  The mind is an outgrowth of cerebral collisions with the environment.  Mind is an obstruction, an aggravation, and a kind of evolutionary mistake.  The brain is a tool - but when it can't stop thinking it's possessed by mind.  When the mind resists life, thoughts arise.  Thought is an unconscious re-action to life.  When you resist what's happening your mind begins to speed up and creates ripples.  The ripples have nothing to do with you.  Learn to just watch them go by.



Insight is the willing of attention, the channeling of awareness to focus precisely on what you want to see.  Surrender is letting all arising thoughts go by without linking them into solid patterns.


My consciousness is not in my body - rather my body is in my consciousness. 


Primary Relationship


         Primary Relationship is:

                  The Self

                  Essential Unity of All

                  The Source of Life

                  The Great Mystery

                  The Way

                  A Higher Power

                  The Ultimate Resource

                  Primitive, Passionate and Powerful


1.      Primary Relationship is an open system lived by choice.

3.      Once planted in the earth people grow, flower and evolve in their awareness of the Primary Relationship.

4.      The underlying principles & moral codes of Primary Relationship evolve by choices made through time.

5.      The beliefs, creeds, variety, complexity or multiple forms of life only add to the    mix of Primary Relationship.

6.      Primary Relationship is not a system to be completed - the process is unlimited and endless - like choice.

7.      Knowing Primary Relationship is achieved through direct and indirect contact.

8.      The evolution of awareness of Primary Relationship moves from the uncomplicated to the highly complex and then to a higher level of simplicity.

9.      Higher simplicity is earmarked by humor and intimacy.

10.    All beliefs, interpretations, categories, classifications, actions, choices, thoughts, feelings, expectations, attitudes, desires, fears and judgments are made null through their opposites.

11.    Change your thinking, attitude or choice and you change your world.

12.    Your relation to Primary Relationship is only a perspective.

13.    Primary Relationship is unlimited choice and creativity.    

14.    The present is the moment of power and choice creating the future whether positive or negative. 

15.    There are no ordinary moments.

16.    The two aspects of Primary Relationship are being and becoming - both are processes.

17.    Knowledge about Primary Relationship is functional, not factual.

18.    Trust yourself to choose the best, not the easiest.

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